How Can Parents Improve their Child’s Communication?

Many of AV’s parenting programs and courses discuss and teach effective communication skills between parent and child. As a social species, we want to communicate. And while children will have different experiences and expectations around conversation, they do still need to learn the ropes of communication, is it will play a vital role in their adult life. But communication isn’t something that teachers can teach in school. Rather, it can be developed over a period of time by observing interactions at home and understanding the value of good communication. As no child is the same, communication is a unique learning, but as parents, you have a chance to explore skills that can help improve their communication for the future.

Too much and too little

It’s a fine line between communicating too much, more like a friend than a parent and censoring information because of their immaturity and naivety. While children definitely don’t understand parts of adulthood, communicating with them as adults will help build their confidence as well as communicate well with authority during childhood and through adulthood. It’s good to know areas that aren’t necessary to discuss, but if a child is unsure or has a question make sure you are open and honest. This builds the foundations of effective communication, and there are a number of skills and traits that can improve your child’s communication, for you and for others.

So, what communication skills help your child learn, grow and be a better person?

Communication with others

When in social settings, lead by example and show the importance of social connections. When you can, encourage children to speak to people of the same age as well as other adults. Make sure this communication is safe, and that if they feel frightened you will be there to help them express themselves. Children may not feel comfortable around new people, but they will benefit the most when they can pair their at-home learning with their outside interactions.

Transparent communication

The more open you are the more you build trust with your child. Children want to know the “why” of behaviours, and it’s your role to give them that information. Orders aren’t orders because you said so, rather because a task needs to be completed. So, make sure you discuss that with your child so they can clearly appreciate and understand what their actions achieve.

Supportive and positive affirmation

It can be easy to spot the negative behaviours and to comment on them with discipline. However, without equal parts – and even more parts – positive affirmation your child may end up only following orders out of fear and avoidance. They may even hide certain behaviours from you, instead of showing you the good things. Make sure communication is positive and constructive, and ensure it is grounded in empathy and compassion. 

How poor communication impacts children

Quality communication can have a positive impact on children’s development, but the alternative can also impact their development. Poor communication can lead to a variety of issues, including:

  • Low self-esteem
  • Anxiety including social anxiety
  • Uncertain relationships with caregiver and peers
  • The ability to transition into adulthood

With a positive outlook on communication, you and your child can discover incredible bonds and learnings to strengthen relationships, enhance social skills and establish life skills.


Anglicare Victoria provides free parenting groups, workshops, resources, and training for parents across Victoria. Our skilled and experienced facilitators tailor the sessions to meet the interests of each group. ParentZone programs cater to all ages and stages, from babies to young adults. Programs address the stages and challenges faced by parents including family violence, mental health, technology and school attendance. 

If you are looking for support in parenting, please reach out to Anglicare Victoria on 1800 809 722. Or why not attend a ParentZone program or course? See Parenting courses and programs here.